It always angers me to see people bash women who choose to care for themselves 😡😠🤬… Whether it be via skincare, makeup, reading, posting selfies, crafting or however else we choose, it’s always dismissed as frivolous, selfish, or “silly women things”….? Why is it that everything women are interested in automatically gets dismissed as self indulgence? Why is it such a big deal for us to be “selfish”? #foodforthought 🤔
Taking the time to *gasp* care for and about ourselves is not only a necessity for our mental + physical health, but it’s also a giant fuck you to societal expectations 🖕🏾 For millenia, women were (are) expected to care for everyone else before we should even think about caring for ourselves… And if/when we do, we’re selfish, we’re vain, we’re wasting time/money… Meanwhile when men indulge in their respective hobbies, it’s not only ok, it’s the cool shit…? 🤔 FUCK 👏🏾 THOSE 👏🏾 DOUBLE 👏🏾 STANDARDS 👏🏾!
So treat yourself darling. And don’t feel guilty about it. You wanna sheet mask and drink rosè? DO IT. You wanna knit and watch Netflix?? 😱 Knit and sip that shit girl. You wanna put on makeup, do a 2 hour skincare routine, paint your nails, write a poem, sketch, get baked, etc… ? Do you! Whatever you think is self care is, do it; especially when you feel you need to. Think of self care as fuel…. You gotta fill up on it for you to function properly. It’s as necessary as water 💦
Remember… You can’t adequately care for anyone or anything else if you’re exhausted, stressed, or just not in the mental space to…and you damn sure don’t have to give a flying fuck what anyone has to say about it. Be political and take care of YOU. Fuck the naysayers. Your wants and needs are valid! Your needs are just as important as anyone else’s. Your hobbies and self care rituals are your sweet escape from the bullshit expectations society throws at you. Audre knew what she was taking about 😎
Don’t let anyone tell you that however you choose to exercise self care is wrong… It’s called SELF CARE, so however you choose to exercise that right is no one else’s goddamn business ✌🏾